Becoming Eden

Month: February 2013

  • 20 Weeks of Lydia

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    Twenty weeks already! I’ve been referring to Lydia as 4.5 months old, but next week she’ll be nearly 5 months. Probably the biggest thing this week was her four-month vaccines. Sleep A couple of times this week, Lydia has woken up in the middle of the night for a while, not just to feed. Not…

  • The Promise and Perils of Rationality

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    In my previous post I laid out what I did and did not mean by the term “rationality”. While I addressed what I consider to be misconceptions around the word rationality and how self-described rationalists would behave, I do think that there are some common problems that real-life rationalists run into in practice. In this…

  • If You Have A Strong Feeling, It’s Yours

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    I’ve had a plan to blog about something related to personal growth every Monday. I’ve managed this the last two weeks, and I’m doing it again today. I read an IFS book about relationships a couple of years ago that had an articulate explanation of why strong feelings are always about us, never the other person.…

  • Compassionate Communication Recap

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    Thanks to everyone who showed up to yesterday’s webinar! The title was Compassionate Communication: What to Say When People Get Upset, and we were talking about the ideas from Marshall Rosenberg’s book Nonviolent Communication. We outlined the basic model of NVC, talked about our experiences with it and how we think about it, and even…

  • Rationality, Unpacked

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    The word “rationality” carries a lot of historical baggage and cultural misconceptions, enough so that I have considered not using it at all. Yet a substantial portion of my social circle has decided to adopt this label (spoiler alert!), and for better or worse, it is the label that I use in my own mind. First I am…

  • Nineteen Weeks of Lydia

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    Lydia tuns nineteen weeks old today, and it was a very active week. She’s getting stronger by the day! Sleep Sleep was unmemorable this week, which is exactly where I want it to be! She seems to be past whatever was making her more fitful last week. We have been breaking out the swaddling blanket…

  • Learning Programming

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    My relationship with programming has a long and sordid past. We got our first computer when I was very young, and I was immediately transfixed by this devil machine. How did it possibly work?? This curiosity got me a handful of vague enough answers to temporarily satisfy me, and I went about playing Dune II.…

  • Your Inner Virtue Ethicist Should Like Self-Compassion

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    If you haven’t read Virtue Ethics for Consequentialists, I highly recommend it. As I see it, consequentialism is obviously correct, and virtue ethics is how you implement it on human hardware. I’m also a big fan of self-compassion. Today, I was working with someone, and while we did some good IFS work together, we didn’t…

  • O, Fragile Productivity!

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    As long as I stick to my systems I don’t get sick very often, and thus I sometimes forget what it’s like. Getting enough sleep seems to render me immune to infections, though sometimes I stay up late or wake up too early. If I do start to feel a cold coming on, a complete…

  • Eighteen Weeks of Lydia

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    Lydia is eighteen weeks now! Nothing too huge this week. Many of the positive changes from last week have carried over, and I would say it’s been a pretty good week. We had the reunion for our homebirth class this past Sunday, so I got to see a bunch of non-Lydia babies too. Sleep Last…