I have a whole bunch of heuristics I use to notice distorted thinking. I’ve covered some of them here. Today, I wanted to highlight the speech pattern “It would be one thing if X, but Y,” typically used to describe why someone’s behavior is objectionable.
The language can vary a little:
“I know that she needs to do X, but Y seems like a bit much.”
“It wasn’t just X, it was Y!”
“I’m a reasonable person. I’d be okay with X. But he went so far as to do Y.” [Read more…]