Becoming Eden

Tag: relationships

  • High trust high investment parenting

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    I like labeling myself as an “unschooler”, but often I’m interested in explaining what I’m going for with my parenting to people that don’t already have a detailed and nuanced model of what unschooling is! My best description of what unschooling means to me is  that I’m pursuing a high trust high investment strategy. I…

  • Summary of How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Can Talk

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    How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Can Talk is a parenting / communication book written by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. While this book is specifically intended for parents to have better relationships with their children, the vast majority of the advice contained within applies universally to all interactions, and…

  • Boundaries

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    For ages, I’ve been hearing about how important “boundaries” were, and I’ve never been quite sure what people even meant by the word. A while back I went to parenting discussion about boundaries, and I think I finally figured out what the word means! (To me, that is. I’m not sure everyone agrees on how…

  • Balancing Needs in Relationships

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    I don’t have time to write something long this week, but I did want to pose a question that’s been on my mind. When someone you care about wants something and you have mixed feelings about whether to give it to them, what are your heuristics for deciding what to do? Do you have an…

  • Relationship Tests and How to Respond

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    I want to try to point at and describe a particular phenomenon I’ve often seen in relationships: testing. While I’m more familiar with the ways women test men, and I would never claim the testing is on average totally symmetrical, certainly men test women as well. This post will be about the ways that most…

  • If You Have A Strong Feeling, It’s Yours

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    I’ve had a plan to blog about something related to personal growth every Monday. I’ve managed this the last two weeks, and I’m doing it again today. I read an IFS book about relationships a couple of years ago that had an articulate explanation of why strong feelings are always about us, never the other person.…

  • Reflective Relationship Webinar Notes

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    Last month, Will and I hosted a webinar on how we stay close and happy in relationships. Two of our friends posted awesome notes. Here they are! Michael Smith’s summary Jasen Murray’s notes