One day, maybe I’ll write a post about how “judgement” (like “belief”), is one of those words that is overloaded to the point where using it at all is likely to interfere with precise communication.
But today, I’ll just use the word “judgement” as best I can.
While I was working with someone the other day, it came to our attention thats he had a bunch of unresolved, quasi-specific judgements about herself.
When I say quasi-specific, I mean that they were somewhere between “I’m not good enough” and “I would have had a more fun evening if I’d remembered to download Game of Thrones a few hours earlier.”
Judgements like these can be quite suffering-inducing because (as usual) it’s easy to get stuck in a pattern of resisting them.
One solution is to take a step back and not only noticed the judgements but make space for them, hear them out, decide whether they’re true and how you’d like to change your behavior in the future. Once you’ve done that, you can mourn the past, forgive yourself, and move on.
I’ll give an example below, using a judgment that still somewhat lands for me, that “I’m lazy.”